The abandoned child is set up to never feel good enough. Being left by the one who brought you into this world naturally makes you wonder what is wrong with you.
Self-worth: “How could my own parent leave me?” the abandoned child wonders. The abandoned child often grows up to struggle with guilt and shame. This sets up a pattern of feeling deeply responsible for her parent’s choice to leave her. In the absence of a logical explanation, the child naturally tends to blame herself. Many struggle with the fact that there is no good explanation because, let’s face it, apart from death there is no good reason for a parent to leave a child. Guilt and shame: All abandoned children are deeply mystified about why their parents left them. 
This holds you back from forming rich, deep, trusting relationships. It’s hard to trust that your partner, friend or loved one has your best interests in mind. You may end up living your life constantly on-guard for the possibility of being abandoned again.
If the one who is meant to love and care for you the most in this world leaves you, it becomes very difficult to believe that anyone and everyone who becomes important to you will not do the same.
Trusting others: When your parent abandons you, he or she is violating your most basic human need, which is to have parents who value and enjoy you. But if your parent walked away by choice, you will also likely struggle with your very natural question of, “Why?” The 3 Main Issues Of The Abandoned Child Most children have difficulty believing that it is permanent, even if their parent has passed away. Children often suffer problems with anger or grief after the loss of a parent. It is very difficult for a child’s brain to absorb the enormity of abandonment. Whether your parent left you because of divorce, death, or choice, the reason matters far less than the fact that he or she left you. Parents leave their children in many different ways, and for many different reasons. If physically present, well-meaning parents can fail their children in such a subtle way that harms them, you can imagine the powerful impact of parental abandonment. Though CEN happens under the radar in most emotionally neglectful homes, it nevertheless leaves lasting effects upon the child: disconnection, lack of fulfillment, and feelings of being empty and alone, among others. This subtle parental failure happens far and wide, and I have given it the name Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN. 
Thanks to loads of scientific research, we now know, without a doubt, that in order to grow and thrive as an adult, children must feel loved and emotionally attached to their parents.Ĭhildrens’ emotional needs are, in fact, so crucial that even well-meaning, physically present parents can inadvertently harm their children by not responding enough to their children’s emotions. Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)Ĭhildren are born literally “pre-wired” with some very specific emotional needs. But there are two other types of parental failure that are far less noticed or discussed: parental abandonment and Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). Thanks to research and awareness, there are many resources available to people who grew up with any form of abuse from their parents. Sadly, there are many different ways that parents can fail their children.
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Legions of people are wondering how to overcome abandonment issues from childhood. Few things have the power to hold you back in your adult life as much as abandonment.
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